Monday, March 5, 2012

A recommend.

Perhaps you are married, perhaps you are engaged, or perhaps you are single with the hope to someday find the person you will spend your God given days with.

I am married.

I was recently given the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. Not because my marriage is falling apart or because we are unhappy. We love the Lord and each other deeply. If asked to rank our marriage on a scale of 1-10, 10 begin fantastically awesome, I would give it a 9. Or so I thought until I read the first question posed on the cover of this book...

What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?

The question has since been running through my head.

Holiness as opposed to happiness? Hmm...

What exactly does God say about marriage and our individual responsibilities as man and woman in this covenant relationship?

Gary answers it in short (on the back). Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with another person. It is a spiritual discipline to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more dearly.

And here I thought that if we read and discussed His word together, had smiles on our faces, and kissed each other goodnight we were in the right with how God intended things to be. I mean, that's what the world says. And yet, as I type those very words I am brought to His word...
8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
   neither are your ways my ways,”
            declares the LORD.
9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth,
   so are my ways higher than your ways
   and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Isaiah 55:8-9

I continually ask myself if what I am doing throughout my day is glorifying to God. Zoning in on the topic of my marriage for Gods glory had slipped my mind. Actually, and honestly, it had never even crossed my mind.

I do things for the big guy to show my love for him; to make him happy (and vice versa). Which in turn (I thought) makes me happy, therefore leaving us with a happy marriage. The end.

And then I read Gary's opening question and got slapped upside the head.

Not that God has anything against happiness, or that happiness and holiness are by nature mutually exclusive, but looking at marriage through the lens of holiness begins to put an entirely new perspective on it.

I have barely made a dent in this book, but felt called to jump the wagon and recommend it to you.

May you be blessed in finding depth with God and the plan of holiness He has made for your marriage, or marriage to be.


Carly said...

I had never thought of marriage that way, either. It seems so obvious, yet the thought hadn't even crossed my mind. Thanks for the recommendation!

Denis & Sarah said...

Sounds like a good read! I will have to look into it. I agree that marriage is sacred and designed to make us more holy, and therefore truly happy. It reminded me of something I read, somewhat related: Marriage provides an ideal setting for overcoming any tendency to be selfish or self-centered. Should we choose to allow it, marriage will help us to become more Christlike, more holy. Thanks for your thoughts, Tay. They were insightful.

Anonymous said...

Sarah, I feel the need to say that "well you missed the boat" on what Taylee wrote. Sacred Marriage doesn't tell how to build a better marriage (therefore make you truly happy as you stated) it shows how your marriage can help you deepen your relationship with God. Marriage was created by God and its so much more than just a sacred covenant. The God that Taylee is discussing and Glorifying here is a very different God than whom you believe. I know this by the link you left, that your a Latter Day Saint. Therefore the meaning of Marriage and your aims and goals in the end are for YOUR GLORY, you believe that you and your husband will one day become this God whom you Glorify now and if you and your spouse act more and become more Christlike this reward will be yours. So your link and saying they are somewhat related to what Taylee wrote here, is simply not True. I highly recommend this book to you as well, but you need to understand that the God in Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas is not the God you believe. God Bless and may you be open to learning and understanding more about the God (who is Jesus, and not once a man like you or I) that Taylee shares here on her Blog. For some reason I cant post unless its under anynomous.
My name is Jayci Chino follower of Jesus Christ :)

Denis & Sarah said...

Jayci, hey! It's I, Sarah Howard, your fellow Honeyviller. And I concur, marriage will help you deepen your relationship with God. While the bash at my religion and assumptions of my belief were not really necessary, I still respect your right to your own opinion. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I am a lot more open minded than you may know. Good to hear from you!